Fun little trick I learned in therapy: validation. When someone is upset, don’t try to fix the problem, point out the cause, or tell them it could be worse. Just validate their emotions. Be like, ‘shit yeah man, that sucks. I’m sorry you’re going through that. I’m here for you.’ That’s literally all you have to do to make them feel better. Thank you and goodnight.
Trampoline tent for summer sleepovers.
think about all the sex
There are two types of people.
If you wanted to eat somebody you could put a fire up under it and slow roast them.
… three. Three types of people.
Russian cosmonauts have discovered something remarkable clinging to the outside of the International Space Station: living organisms.
yooooOOOOOOY OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO HERE WE GO THERE IT IS HERE WE GOOOO IT ALL BEGINS HERE ITS HERE THIS IS IT THIS IS THE BEGINNING BRING ON MY MASS EFFECT FUTURE
A man admittedly followed and killed an innocent teenager, and was declared not guilty.
States are passing laws allowing guns in public schools.
Women are losing their reproductive rights at an increasingly alarming rate.
Riots are tearing through the streets in cities all over the world.
College tuition keeps rising, sending a generation into debt as soon as they are entering the adult world.
Education funds keep getting slashed.
Privacy no longer exists.
Corporations now have the same rights as people, and the funds to actually protect them.
Through loopholes, many U.S. Corporations pay a lower tax rate than middle class families.
States are now passing more voter ID laws and similar laws that only affect the lower class.
The corporate giant, Monsanto, has pretty much purchased and bribed its way into every grocery product on the shelf, resulting in food becoming less and less like, well, food. There are reasons Cancer rates are getting worse.
Likewise, Monsanto is making sure small American farmers are ran out of business. Also, their constant pesticide use is killing bees and other insects, causing dire environmental issues.
The mass media is more concerned with pop culture and trends, than the real issues the world is facing.
Human population is ever growing, and at rapid rates. It can’t just continue this way.
We have put so much trash in giant landfills all over our world and in our oceans. We are killing our planet.
Robot Self-Assembles And Walks
by Michael Keller
Roboticists have developed a flat machine that can fold itself into an operational form and take a walk.
Built mostly from paper and polystyrene plastic that shrinks into a memorized shape when heated, the robot can assemble in around four minutes. It can crawl at roughly 2 inches per second and make turns. The work by Harvard and MIT engineers represents the first time that a robot has self-assembled and performed a function without humans needing to intervene.
“Here we created a full electromechanical system that was embedded into one flat sheet,” said Harvard Microrobotics Lab researcher and doctoral student Sam Felton. “Imagine a ream of dozens of robotic satellites sandwiched together so that they could be sent up to space and then assemble themselves remotely once they get there–they could take images, collect data and more.”
Oh man, imagine an electric wheelchair like this. One that can fold.
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Most of the posts I put on this blog are encouraging because that’s how I prefer to deal with bisexual erasure, violence, etc. It’s better to focus on the ways to solve issues in a positive manner than dwelling on the negative. But sometimes you have experiences that just leave you seething.
I attended a dinner tonight that was business oriented for a new colleague’s birthday. All those in attendance were self-identified gay men, excluding myself. Five minutes into the dinner, the conversation turns into a discussion of how bisexuality doesn’t exist and that a mutual friend, who was not in attendance, was dating a girl. Comments turned into, “It’s almost sad” because he’s “obviously gay and it’s not going to work but we’ll sit and watch. Poor thing must be so confused. But hey…he’ll figure it out.”
The issue at hand was that all of the (mostly older) gay men in attendance had only known this mutual acquaintance to date other men. However, over the summer he had starting dating another friend who happened to be a woman and he was very excited to start this new relationship.
To question a colleague’s sexuality, especially when they’re not in attendance, is just unacceptable. As this discussion progressed, the same old tired comments about bisexuality came out. “The only bi men I know say that they’re bi but they all lean one way or the other” or “Well…honey….he should just admit it. He’s gay. It’ll be easier.”
My own sexuality was not up for discussion here directly, but it was the same. fucking. erasure. that happens daily for bisexual men. I was so mad that I turned visibly red.
At this point I said something to those at the dinner about how I have a dear, unnamed friend, who is married and loves, LOVES sleeping with his wife but also is allowed to sleep with men and enjoys both thoroughly. This comment got brushed off with someone saying “Oh that’s like my friend _____. He’s gay but he’s married to a woman so they have an open marriage where they both sleep with men on the side,” which completely missed my point and basically suggested my friend had a sham marriage.
How can people in the gay community, especially older members of the gay community, be so ignorant, and frankly asshole-ish about sexualities other than gay or lesbian? When this cohort of gay men were younger being gay was still listed in the DSM-II of Mental Illnesses. You’d think that a group who experienced Stonewall and the first wave of the gay rights movement firsthand would be more open.
And the way that they talked about women. And it’s not just this particular group. We often hear about how straight men are misogynistic. But little discussion, until the past couple years, has occurred talking about how it’s just as bad if not worse among the older gay male cohort. The shit I have heard some gay men (and often older gay men) talk about how “Women are just…ew. Like…don’t they smell and…just ew” and joke after joke suggesting men are obviously superior to women because we have cocks and pronounced pecs and muscle-y thighs, etc. How the fuck do you think you’re around? Those vaginas you find so revolting were somehow involved in you being in existence. And those “floppy boobs” are evolutionarily designed. It’s because of them that you could have the proper nutrition to have the cognitive ability to even have this conversation.
This is not to say you have to like women. You can even be repulsed by their genitalia. But to speak and talk about women as if they’re a different species and portray their own sexual beings as something hideous that should be hidden is simply…misogynistic and a throwback to the 1950s.
But I think the part that angered me the most was that a personal friend of mine was at the table and said nothing. This friend didn’t exactly agree with the comments being made but he also didn’t say anything. He didn’t defend the fact that the man he himself is in love with (also not in attendance) is bisexual. Nor did he do anything to account that his own friend sitting next to him, me, is bisexual and obviously very uncomfortable with the way the discussion was headed. Granted, in a setting such as this it would have put him at odds with his superiors but yet I was in the same position as he was hierarchically-speaking and decided to speak up for myself.
I do not mean this rant to blanket the entire older gay community. Some of my closest allies are gay men that are in the very same age bracket as these men and they have been some of the most supportive and amazing people I have ever met. But it still remains that a large portion continue to perpetuate stereotypes about bisexual men, trans* people, and women that are ridiculous. And in 2014. It is just unacceptable.
So please, followers. Send me some love AND responses. I want to hear your thoughts, even if you think my rant is totally base-less. I want to know what you think.
Excellent piece well worth reading and discussing. Maybe something to take in to show and discuss with some appropriate people in B-School, at your Job, your Professional Associations and with your local Bisexual (or maybe if you are lucky LGBT) Discussion Group.
Obviously what happened was totally inappropriate, but especially in any Professional, Academic or Business-related setting. So how do you handle this? What are your options? Should you speak up then? Maybe wait until later and confront the people privately? What if it is your boss who said these things? What does this mean for your career prospects and daily interactions on the job?
And later, do you tell the people being gossiped about what was said? Do you discuss it with your female (and though not specifically mentioned but undoubtedly also maligned trans/gender non-conforming) colleagues? And how will it effect your being able to interact in a professional setting with these people now that you have so clearly heard these opinions?
All of these things need to be seriously thought about and if possible discussed.
D&D for the Rich
This is a small series of really well crafted gaming tables for D&D that I wish I could afford for my gaming group. Click the source for more pictures of each table.